Thoughtful Ramblings From a Raging Academic — We all make mistakes from time to time, and it’s okay to be making them. We aren’t perfect. We’re just human. We did the best that we could with the information that we had at the time. …

During a pandemic, ghosting feels worse than usual. — Prior to the pandemic, ghosting was definitely a thing, but with all these stay-at-home orders, constant brain fog, and chronic bouts of isolation, it’s been a lot easier for people to engage in ghosting. A quick search online suggests that ghosting can be incredibly soul-crushing, especially with increased worldwide loneliness. …

Use this one gentle trick while resolving crises and life decisions. — I’m a Registered Psychotherapist who has helped thousands of people across many circumstances— and I’ve been spending more time on the front lines lately as the demand for mental health services increases. This may include individuals who present with depression, grief, trauma, anxiety, burnout, relationship issues, and many more.

It creates a lot of anxiety and distrust in everyone. — The online dating scene feels more complicated than ever, especially with the ever-changing unwritten rules and increased cognitive burden tied to endlessly swiping left and right across hundreds of people daily. A grotesque mashup of ghosting and gaslighting, ghostlighting combines the worst of the two, reeking of desperation, confusion, and…

A therapist outlines a means of repurposing jealousy. — As a former psychological researcher and as a current trauma therapist, I know that jealousy can be interpreted as an underlying sign of insecurity, stemming from our earliest reaches of childhood — and the attachments we accrued with mom and dad (or any other allied family member). For many of…

Identifying this can help with making informed choices. — Empathy is something that most of us have, and we share it in different ways, some with more intensity than others. …

We just can’t hear their screams. — According to researchers at Tel Aviv University, plants emit airborne sounds that no human being can hear — especially when under stress. Despite sounding like popped popcorn (at a volume similar to human speech) they operate at a very high frequency, well beyond the scope of human hearing. This makes…

It is not what bothers you, it’s how it bothers you. — I’m a therapist who has noticed more and more people use the term “intrusive thoughts” to embody any undesirable thought. I scrolled through TikTok the other day, and it seems that people are using it as a catchall for everything that bothers them. It has embedded itself into pop culture…

A therapist tries to simplify this trauma-processing technique. — I’m a psychotherapist who has worked with many clients across many presenting issues, including but not limited to: Anxiety Depression Trauma Workplace stress Chronic pain Grief There is always an ever-revolving door when it comes to best practices, modalities, and norms in therapy — what was the gold standard one…