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Canadian Writer & Researcher | Aspiring Therapist | Crisis Responder | Writing about mental health, psychology, etc.

Your boundaries are important.

Sometimes we operate at a high, where things flow seamlessly. Then, someone comes along and attacks our character for no real reason. Strengthening our boundaries will help us further when we are confronted by these kinds of people.

This is not to say that you don’t have boundaries. On the contrary, we all have boundaries, with some of us operating at varying levels of permeability. Some of us need that little push to maintain that strong momentum, especially across long periods of time.

For someone like myself, a person who is working to become a therapist, I’d like to think…

Canadian Researcher & Writer | MA Candidate in Counselling Psychology | Aspiring Therapist | Crisis Responder

Hello Medium writers,

My name is Synthia and I’m a female in her mid-twenties who is born and raised in Canada. My cultural ancestry is Sri Lankan. Currently, I’m doing my second rodeo of graduate school in Counselling Psychology. I have plans to potentially become a therapist in the future.

For a bit of context, I did my Bachelor’s degree in Biopsychology and did my first master’s degree in Developmental Psychology. …

Their body language may give it away.

Even the best of us may feel jealous from time to time, especially when we are vying for attention from someone, such as a friend, a relative, or a partner. In romantic relationships, jealousy is a fascinating emotion, one that can take the centre stage, but only if you give jealousy that level of power.

Remember, you are you, and you are not defined by your emotions. Your emotions are a part of you but they are not you.

Anyway, jealousy is a curious and natural feeling for many people, but it’s not exactly the best state to be in…

It’s simple, but most couples rarely talk about them.

As much as we hate to admit it, money influences our relationships with others, including our partners. Yes, you love your partner, and your partner loves you, but managing your finances is really important to ensure that you’re both on the same page.

Maybe you’re the type that saves money while the partner is a massive spender. Maybe one of you needs detailed spreadsheets while the other person can calculate mental calculations seamlessly, without having much disruption in their day.

It’s surprising to think that many couples rarely talk about their finances, but during turbulent times like these, it’s especially…

Reality is stranger than fiction.

This happened a while ago, but I wanted to share this story with the masses. I did some coverage on this for a news aggregator and wanted to bring some life into it.

Sometimes, when we meet people, there is a special friendship that sparks organically. In New Haven, Connecticut, this is exactly what happened for two coworkers who became friends, who then later realized that they were literal sisters.

Let me repeat: two coworkers eventually found out that they were literal sisters.

Julia Tinetti and Cassandra Madison were both born in the Dominican Republic and were adopted years later…

It’s not static or fixed.

Positive psychology is all the rage these days, especially when it emphasizes the aspect of life that makes it worth living. For example, finding your true calling motivates you to do something greater than yourself — it supersedes you even.

For someone like myself, perhaps I want to see the best in people because I can. I don’t mind a dash of positivity. It balances out the bad in the world, after all.

Even if the worst arrives, at least we could say that we tried, and we tried hard. Plus, there are contingency plans that can be created if…

It might involve judgement and abandonment.

There may be fleeting moments where you are caught off-guard and you find yourself feeling as if you were fundamentally misunderstood. It can be a helpless circumstance, where you might feel sadness, shame, and possibly anger. I felt this way a couple of days ago, much to my surprise.

Depending on the situation, perhaps the non-verbal language of the other party suggests total confusion towards something that you said. It leads us to feel hurt, possibly lonely, and afraid to talk to others.

Each one of us has a desire to feel understood. …

Riding That Bike Towards a New Comfort Zone

Perhaps you’ve spent a lot of years trying to fine-tune yourself. You’re you — the unadulterated form of you and some people just expect you to change.

Perhaps you also were told from a young age that you had some sort of talent, but then the tide comes in, and you’re unable to perform the way that you anticipated.

Perhaps I’m talking about myself. I always thought I had a specific talent, but I’m starting to wonder if I really have what it takes, especially across specific environments and specific clusters of people.

It’s the big leagues and maybe we…

It’s a continuous exercise in trust.

The point of being in a relationship is to find someone that captures your heart, soul, and mind. This person will hopefully be worth your time, patience, and effort as well. I mean, when we enter relationships, we have the expectation of remaining together, through thick and thin.

I’m an aspiring therapist, and while I don’t really like to share much about my personal life, I love the security that relationships afford us. …

Ramblings From the Aspiring Therapist

We rarely talk about the loneliness that we may feel when we are surrounded by people. It’s possible to feel lonely when you are in a crowd, even if that crowd is made up of your parents and siblings as you’re sitting around the dinner table, eating in relative harmony.

Loneliness is an unspoken calamity, where we are connected to more people than ever before — and yet, an underlying sense of loneliness may lay claim to us, especially when we head for bed and close our eyes.

There’s a possibility that perhaps you’re feeling this way because you’re misunderstood…

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